Does a lack of confidence keep you from achieving your goals or reaching out for the things you want in life? With a little bit of practice trying out some new behaviors, you can build the confidence you need to enjoy life more and spend less time affected by self doubt and negativity.
Step 1: Make Small Changes That Add Up to Huge Confidence
Small changes include that of body language, wearing a smile, taking steps to improve your physical self, and using more positive words when you speak. Practice smiling regularly – whether you’re walking down the street, shopping, or talking with friends. You don’t have to sport a huge cheesy grin; a moderate smile is enough to make you feel better even when you’re not necessarily ‘happy.’
Consider other types of body language, as well. When you walk, are your shoulders slouched? Try using good posture with your shoulders square. Also, take note of the types of words you use and remember that strong words like hate, stupid, and a variety of other words intensify negative feelings which go a long way in lowering confidence levels.
Finally, take time to work on the outside. Perhaps you would do well with a hair cut or a makeover. Another great way is to get involved with a gym or a regular aerobics or Yoga routine. Physical exercise is a great way to not only feel better right away with a rush of endorphins, but also to boost your confidence over time as you begin to see results.
Step 2: Allow Your Thoughts and Beliefs to Become More Positive
Learn to recognize self-defeating statements – not only the ones that originate in your own head, but also the chatter you hear from other people. If you are terribly affected by what others say, try to remember that negative words from others are only a representation of what they’re feeling…You can CHOOSE to feel differently and not let it get to you. When you’re thinking negative thoughts or telling yourself you ‘can’t’ do something, practice telling yourself that these are lies – that you are whole, perfect, and complete, and there is nothing in life which is out of reach to you.
Step 3: To Increase Self-Esteem, Perform Estimable Acts
Practice seeking less approval from others and more from yourself. One great way to do this is to do something that helps somebody without letting them know you did it. Other ways of performing estimable acts is to be aware of both your strengths and your weaknesses. Get involved with things you’re good at and find time to improve on some of your weaknesses. If you have important events coming up such as a presentation or a job interview, take time to prepare yourself to help guarantee a more positive outcome.
Step 4: Realize What You Have and Practice Gratitude
Take the time at the end of each day to go over both your achievements and your perceived failures. Try not to ‘beat yourself up’ over things you consider failures. The only thing you can do is learn from the past by amending your behavior in the future. Take time each day to consider the ones you love and the ones who love you.
Remember, most of what we decide to stress about won’t even matter in another 5, 10, 15, 20 years. At the beginning of each day, practice putting all of your fears aside and visualizing a day ahead of you in which nothing can stand in your way. Put more positive energy out into the world and allow all the positivity and self-confidence to radiate in your life.